What is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy is a form of therapy that addresses sexual concerns and
problems. Examples of this these might include an inability to have or
maintain an erect penis, not knowing how to have an orgasm, or
feeling uncomfortable about sex or the way your body looks.
offers treatments to help change and heal these and other conditions when
Examples of treatment may constitute talking honestly about your feelings with a
sex-therapist, trying different approaches to problems, and utilizing
exercises, such as exploring Sensate Focus with your self and/or your
partner, or learning the "squeeze technique" (see
Sexual Dysfunction) to alleviate premature
ejaculation. Some sex-therapists work in clinics with couples and follow a
flexible but specific protocol on improving sexual wellness; others work
one-on-one with individuals.
Who Are Sex-Therapists?
A qualified sex therapist offers the perspective of an objective,
professional third party who is trained in therapeutic techniques to help
you overcome sexual problems. Sex therapy is useful when sexual concerns
arise that you can’t change by yourself (as is often the case, because it’s
hard to perceive or change our own behavior patterns).
Sexologists, sex therapists, sex counselors, sex educators and psychiatrists
and social workers who specialize in sexual issues are all people who you
can seek advice from.
Certified sex therapists and sexologists are trained in clinical techniques
for treating sexual dysfunction.
Choosing a Sex-Therapist
Choose a therapist whose personal values do not interfere with your therapy.
For example, if you’re LGBTQQ or I, working with a therapist who believes
that your sexual orientation is morally wrong or psychologically
abnormal is counterproductive. Feel free to ask a potential therapist
about their beliefs, tenets, and professional qualifications.
Sexual surrogates are professionals who give experiential care to
individuals with sexual issues, usually in collaboration with a course of
treatment outlined by a professional sex therapist. They essentially
substitute for a cooperative, caring sexual partner. Many of them have
training as sexologists. Professional sexual surrogates can only be
contacted through a sex therapist or a qualified sexual health professional.
Food for Thought: Ask Yourself
It can be illuminating to give yourself a preliminary 'therapy
sesion' by pondering key questions on your own. Sometimes you
can learn alot if you just listen within without judgement. Here are
some fundamental questions to consider:
How did I learn about sex?
Were the messages I recieved about sex from my environment
positive or negative? How?
Am I comfortable with my body?
If not, in what way?
Am I comfortable with sex?
If not, what do I want to change?
How can I change what I'm not happy with?