Sex Therapy and Sexual Surrogates



What is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy is a form of therapy that addresses sexual concerns and problems. Examples of this these might include an inability to have or maintain an erect penis, not knowing how to have an orgasm, or feeling uncomfortable about sex or the way your body looks.


Sex therapy offers treatments to help change and heal these and other conditions when they cause suffering.


Examples of treatment may constitute talking honestly about your feelings with a sex-therapist, trying different approaches to problems, and utilizing exercises, such as exploring Sensate Focus with your self and/or your partner, or learning the "squeeze technique" (see Sexual Dysfunction) to alleviate premature ejaculation. Some sex-therapists work in clinics with couples and follow a flexible but specific protocol on improving sexual wellness; others work one-on-one with individuals.


Who Are Sex-Therapists?

A qualified sex therapist offers the perspective of an objective, professional third party who is trained in therapeutic techniques to help you overcome sexual problems. Sex therapy is useful when sexual concerns arise that you can’t change by yourself (as is often the case, because it’s hard to perceive or change our own behavior patterns).


Sexologists, sex therapists, sex counselors, sex educators and psychiatrists and social workers who specialize in sexual issues are all people who you can seek advice from.


Certified sex therapists and sexologists are trained in clinical techniques for treating sexual dysfunction.


Choosing a Sex-Therapist

Choose a therapist whose personal values do not interfere with your therapy. For example, if you’re LGBTQQ or I, working with a therapist who believes that your sexual  orientation is morally wrong or psychologically abnormal is counterproductive. Feel free to ask a potential therapist about their beliefs, tenets, and professional qualifications.


Sexual Surrogates

Sexual surrogates are professionals who give experiential care to individuals with sexual issues, usually in collaboration with a course of treatment outlined by a professional sex therapist. They essentially substitute for a cooperative, caring sexual partner. Many of them have training as sexologists. Professional sexual surrogates can only be contacted through a sex therapist or a qualified sexual health professional.



Food for Thought: Ask Yourself

It can be illuminating to give yourself a preliminary 'therapy sesion' by  pondering key questions on your own. Sometimes you can learn alot if you just listen within without judgement. Here are some fundamental questions to consider:


How did I learn about sex?


Were the messages I recieved about sex from my environment positive or negative? How?


Am I comfortable with my body?

If not, in what way?


Am I comfortable with sex?

If not, what do I want to change?

How can I change what I'm not happy with?




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